Whether it is divorce, adultery, theft, dishonesty, disloyalty, greed . . . whatever. Not that any of us are immune to the edges of the more serious nature of such heartless crimes (oh for the love of poo, will you shut up!) We all tell little white lies, taste the grapes, drop friends, keep that chocolate bar our little secret. I am talking about the big stuff.
The stuff tat really need forgiveness and understanding. When a person commits a wrong against us and sincerely repents the proper response is forgiveness and understanding and then we grapple with our excess anger and hate in a productive and healing manner. Or so I was taught.
Unfortunately, along the line somewhere we have learned that vented hatred and vitriol is our 'right' we get to punish the transgressor and make then suffer ten times ten the amount we did at their hands.
Kindness is reserved for our own needs and feelings. If someone dares cross our paths no matter how softly or mistakenly they are the rightful recipients of our full wrath.
What's worse is we carry this attitude into our old age. No longer do this hardships and wounds render us kindly, wisdom filled elders. No, now we are the unfettered, vengeful, riders of the apocalypse - ready too cut anyone and everyone down in flames and send them to eternal damnation with satisfaction and the knowledge that we have somehow 'won'.
I have to ask, where is the pleasure in seeing our fellow man suffer? Even an ex or a perceived enemy? Is there truly peace in one's heart after such a deed? Can you call yourself somehow superior after such an 'achievement'?
I am far from perfect (shut up!) but I cannot live within such perameters and cannot imagine the soul who can. If you want kindly wisdom (ok already, endless prattling) come, sit with me, have some cookies and milk and humor a sweet
old lady for and hour or two.